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What about dating apps? The numbers speak for themselves.

Writer: admin Time:2021-12-30 14:45 Browse:

  "Hardly anyone here knows you. Your boss, your family, your colleagues don't."
 
  "I don't have any desire to talk. I don't think we'll see each other again."
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  Devlin,26, had just had coffee with a male dating app user at a cafe in Los Angeles. It was the sixth person she had met offline through dating apps.
 
  "Loves movies, extreme sports," and"is looking for a stable relationship," these profiles fit well with Devlin's requirements. The man's mannerisms suggested a good education, but Devlin clearly felt uncomfortable with him.
 
  Instant dating apps are changing the way people date and interact.
 
  According to Statista, a large business data platform, there were more than 200 million active users of dating apps by the end of 2019, about 40 percent of single adults looking for a partner on them, and 25 percent of newlyweds met through dating apps.
 
  In Europe, a report by SOCIAL App MM and the US Academy of Social Sciences found that social apps play an important role in the dating process of Generation Z(those born and raised between 1995 and 2009). Thirty percent of respondents said they had fallen in love with someone they met on MMS, and 67.1 percent said social networking apps were more effective than traditional dating channels.
 
  "Swipe left." "Swipe right."
 
  Devlin has been at a liberal arts college, surrounded by men she"could count on one hand."After work, she knew only a limited number of men because of her narrow social circle. She started using dating apps a year ago to expand her social circle.
 
  Her most popular apps are Tinder and MM, which work differently. But users need to fill in their date of birth when registering, and they can fill in their college, hobbies, and profile information. Each user has the right to upload multiple photos.
 
  Only one person's profile card appears on the App interface at a time, allowing users to quickly judge their preferences based on photos and a short text introduction. Swiping left means dislike, swiping right means Like, and swiping up means Super Like. If they swipe right for you, you're matched and can text each other to learn more.
 
  On Tinder and MM, you can see a variety of interesting profiles.
 
  Some people will like the director, book list, stating that"if none of these names recognize that or do not right swipe"; Someone shared a story about a fisherman going ashore in a central province he was filming at his own expense. Others simply write that the purpose of their registration is"human observation"...
 
  However, at the same time, these users show a high degree of homogeneity: most of them have an overseas education background, are engaged in finance, law, Internet, and other industries love niche music, drink whiskey, master multiple languages, and like skiing, surfing, and fitness.
 
  "In winter, everyone is living in the mountains and skiing every day."Devlin once swiped 10 consecutive tags of users who like skiing," it is easy to find that most of them are from middle-class families, most of them have a background of studying abroad."
 
  Diana started using the dating app MM while studying abroad in France, a city far from Paris where there are fewer international students with him. She hopes that dating apps from China will help her meet more white people and make more friends. After returning home, her use of MM increased significantly."MMS is more likely to meet someone they're interested in."
 
  Diana returned to China in early 2020 and spent years studying and living abroad, with a few friends in Seattle. During the epidemic, I hope MM can expand my social circle online and meet more interesting people.
 
  "Dating apps satisfy some people's voyeuristic desire, but there is always a strong need to socialize."
 
  According to Diana, men and women on dating apps have different goals for dating."Girls are easy to ask out for dinner. But men are more likely to have a relationship in mind, whether it's a one-night stand or a committed relationship. They'd be confused why I had a partner and asked them out."
 
  The numbers are also telling. According to the report jointly released by MM and the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences,70.7 percent of male respondents surveyed by MM said the sooner the better, while only 44.9 percent of female respondents said the sooner the better. In addition, when asked about their motivation for falling in love,30.7 percent of male respondents chose"to find the right person for marriage," while only 18.8 percent of female respondents chose"to find the right person for marriage."
 
  The desire to socialize amplified by technology
 
  Angie went back to Tinder during the pandemic.
 
  Angie's boyfriend, an American, has been unable to meet because of the pandemic. When Angie and her boyfriend talked about starting an open relationship', Tinder was the natural place for her to find dates.
 
  Angie used Tinder when she was studying in Liverpool, England, and saw it as a platform for finding sexual partners, with user's images being very sexual. But at home, she sees a more diverse need for friends and dinner dates."I can feel the urge to express myself."
 
  Angie used to think the idea of finding friends on dating platforms was"hilarious".She thinks it's hard for people to choose friends based on a few photos and introductions. But then she realized that dating apps might provide the biggest showcase for ordinary people.
 
  "Hardly anyone here knows you. Not your boss, not your family, not your colleagues.Only people who are similar to you in some way."While dating apps satisfy some people's voyeuristic needs, there has always been a strong need for social interaction that was suppressed before the pandemic or when people were anxious about their real lives."Ainge said.
 
  Six months ago Devlin was checking Tinder at a bar in Sanlitun. After a match with a man, she found that the distance between them was only one kilometer. After a few words, the two were surprised to find themselves in the same bar.
 
  Angie was in a similar situation. A few days after matching a user, Angie was horrified when he suddenly texted her to tell her they were only a kilometer or two away."It means they are at least paying attention to my location."
 
  Tinder's messaging system doesn't support sending pictures, but since users can set up a connection to external social networks, anyone can direct from their Tinder profile page to their external social networks home pages. Angie, who once received pictures of men exposing their genitals on Instagram, had to post a warning on her social media page to avoid persistent harassment.
 
  "Once a piece of software is designed, everyone will have an initial understanding, but it is up to everyone to decide how to use the software," Ainge said.
 
  Intimacy in a megacity
 
  Devlin says the biggest change she has made since using dating apps is her confidence.
 
  In the face of a variety of matching objects tricky questions and difficult to answer greetings, Devlin to deal with the road. When someone talks to her about her views on social events, she is more courageous to refute different opinions."I feel more empowered and proud of my identity and thinking on dating apps."
 
  Dating apps are becoming more diverse.
 
  Dating apps are becoming more diverse. But intimacy in a big city remains difficult for Devlin. She once met a man on a dating app. They could feel their affection for each other, but he had just been stationed in Beijing for a year from his company in Singapore, and their paths might not cross again."Because of the nature of his job, he didn't want to be in any serious relationship."
 
  "Distance is a big problem in Beijing. Crossing districts is like a long-distance relationship."Tinder user Mia told China Philanthropist that it's also difficult for intimate relationships to last because people in big cities tend to meet more interesting people, and dating apps make that easier."We talk to one person we're interested in, and if it's not that speculative, we move quickly to the next."
 
  Devlin was curious and excited when she first started dating apps. Male users pushed by the software have rich hobbies, and many of them have similar aesthetic taste and views with Devlin."You get more and more curious about what the next user is going to look like."
 
  At her peak, Devlin spends up to two hours a day on dating apps. But fatigue soon sets in. After three days, Devlin found the profiles difficult to catch her attention. Most of the nearly 40 men who matched her stopped at greeting each other."I felt my attraction was quickly drawn to the profile of the next person and it was difficult to attach importance to the communication with them."
 
  Now Devlin only turns to date apps when she's bored. Only photos will be scanned for five minutes at a time. She rarely swiped right again, and only asked to meet offline when she found a real match.